The Rights and Duties of Women in Islam

Issues in which men and women are treated alike or women are treated favorably.
This article discusses issues that carry little or no controversy.

1. Education
The Messenger of Allah (p.b.u.h.) once said: “Acquiring knowledge is compulsory for every Muslim. (At-Tabarani)
This narration applies equally to men and women. “Knowledge” in this context refers primarily to knowledge of the Holy Quran and Sunnah as no Muslim should be ignorant of his or her Faith, but it also covers other areas of general education, which can contribute to the welfare of civilization. It is precisely the ignorance about their religion among Muslims that has led to men oppressing women because they believe it is permitted, women not demanding their God-given rights because they are ignorant of them, and children growing up to perpetuate their parents’ follies. Throughout Islamic history, men and women both earned respect as scholars and teachers of the Faith. The books of Rijal (Reporters of Hadith) contain the names of many prominent women, beginning with Aishah and Hafsah.

2. Worship
Both men and women are the servants of Allah and have a duty to worship and obey Him. Men and women have to pray, fast, give charity, go on pilgrimage, refrain from adultery, avoid the prohibited, enjoin the good and forbid the evil, and so on. Because of women’s roles as mothers, a role which does not end at a specific time but is a round the-clock career, they have been exempted from attending the Mosque for the five daily prayers or for Jumuah (Friday) prayer. Nevertheless, if they wish to attend the Mosque, no one has the right to stop them.

3. Charitable Acts
Men and women are both encouraged to give charity, and there is nothing to stop a woman giving charity from her husband’s income. Aishah reported that the Messenger of Allah said: “A woman will receive reward (from Allah) even when she gives charity from her husband’s earnings. The husband and the treasurer (who keeps the money on the husband’s behalf) will also be rewarded, without the reward of any of them decreasing.” Asmaa once said to the Prophet “O Messenger of Allah, I have nothing except what Zubair (her husband) brings home.” The Prophet told her: ‘O Asmaa give in charity. Don’t lock it lest your subsistence is locked.’”

4. The Right to Own Wealth and Property
A woman has the right to keep her property or wealth, whether earned or inherited, and spend it as she may please.
This right was granted to Western women only very recently, and the women of India had to wait until 1956 for a right which Muslim women have always taken for granted. Concerning the right to one’s earnings, the Holy Quran says:
“And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you excel the others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.” (V. 4:32)

5. Freedom to Express One’s Opinion
Few societies exist in which the ordinary citizen can confront the ruler face to face and challenge his policies. Even fewer societies allow women to be so bold, yet the Islamic ideal has always been open and accessible. This freedom of expression is aptly demonstrated by a famous incident involving Omar the second Rightly- Guided Caliph. Omar was once standing on the pulpit, severely reprimanding the people and ordering them not to set excessive amounts of dower at the time of marriage. A woman got up and shouted, “Omar, you have no right to intervene in a matter which Allah the All-Mighty has already decreed in Quran:
“But if you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a Qintar (of gold, i.e., a great amount as Mahr bridal money), take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and (with) a manifest sin?” (V.4:20)

After being reminded of this Verse, Omar withdrew his order, saying, “I am in the wrong and she is correct.”

Rights of Women Guaranteed by Islam

One of my viewers is totally convinced that Islam is against the rights of women and that women are nothing more than

slaves to their husbands (add also fathers, brothers etc.)  While we do hear of many stories coming from “Muslim” countries which can sometimes be actually horrific, I do defend that the actions of human beings cannot be used to measure a religion.  It should be that the religion is used to measure its followers.  So if a husband throws acid on his wife’s face because he thinks she is disobedient or rude, this is NOT nor EVER has been, sanctioned by ISLAM.  God is merciful therefore we should also be merciful.  People need to distinguish the habits of humans versus what their religion teaches.  Do you agree with the Machoism in Brazil whereby many women are beaten, burned and abused??  You do not hear us saying that those Christians are so brutal.  Yet brutality at the hands of Christians, Jews and others does occur– because of being a human and erring.

A Collection of References from the Quran and Hadeeth about the Rights of Women guaranteed by Islam

Spiritual Equality of Women and Men
Allah has got ready forgiveness and tremendous rewards for the Muslim men and women; the believing men and women; the devout men and women; the truthful men and women; the patiently suffering men and women; the humble men and women; the almsgiving men and women; the fasting men and women, the men and women who guard their chastity; and the men and women who are exceedingly mindful of Allah. (Al-Ahzab 33:35)

Attitudes towards women
O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower ye have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good. (An-Nisa 4:19)

Collaboration and consultation
The believing men and women, are associates and helpers of each other. They (collaborate) to promote all that is beneficial and discourage all that is evil; to establish prayers and give alms, and to obey Allah and his Messenger. Those are the people whom Allah would grant mercy. Indeed Allah is Mighty and Wise. (Al-Taubah 9:71)

Examples of Consensual Decision Making
If both spouses decide, by mutual consent and consultation, on weaning [their baby], there is no blame on either. If you want to have your babies breastfed by a foster mother you are not doing anything blame-worthy provided you pay to the fostermother what you had agreed to offer, in accordance with the established manner. Fear Allah and know that Allah is aware it what you are doing”. (Al-Baqarah, 2:233)

Women’s Right to Attend Mosques
Narrated Ibn Umar: The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, “Allow women to go to the Mosques at night.” (Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 22)

Narrated Ibn Umar: One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the ‘Isha’ prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great ghaira (self-respect). She replied, “What prevents him from stopping me from this act?” The other replied, “The statement of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) : ‘Do not stop Allah’s women-slave from going to Allah s Mosques’ prevents him.” (Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 23)

Ibn ‘Umar reported: Grant permission to women for going to the mosque in the night. His son who was called Waqid said: Then they would make mischief. He (the narrator) said: He thumped his (son’s) chest and said: I am narrating to you the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him), and you say: No! (Sahih Muslim Book 004, Number 0890)

Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Do not deprive women of their share of the mosques, when they seek permission from you. Bilal said: By Allah, we would certainly prevent them. ‘Abdullah said: I say that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said it and you say: We would certainly prevent them! (Sahih Muslim Book 004, Number 0891)

Yahya related to me from Malik from Yahya ibn Said that Atika bint Zayd ibn Amr ibn Nufayl, the wife of Umar ibn al-Khattab, used to ask Umar ibn al-Khattab for permission to go to the mosque. He would keep silent, so she would say, “By Allah, I will go out, unless you forbid me,” and he would not forbid her. (Sunan Abu Dawud Book 14, Number 14.5.14)

The Common Performance of Ablutions
Narrated Ibn Umar: “It used to be that men and women would perform ablutions together in the time of the Messenger of Allah’s assembly.” (Bukhari: 1: Ch. 45, Book of Ablution)

Women’s Right of Proposal
Narrated Sahl: A woman came to the Prophet, and presented herself to him (for marriage). He said, “I am not in need of women these days.” Then a man said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Marry her to me.” The Prophet asked him, “What have you got?” He said, “I have got nothing.” The Prophet said, “Give her something, even an iron ring.” He said, “I have got nothing.” The Prophet asked (him), “How much of the Quran do you know (by heart)?” He said, “So much and so much.” The Prophet said, “I have married her to you for what you know of the Quran.” (Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 72)

Women’s Right of Permission
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission.” The people asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! How can we know her permission?” He said, “Her silence (indicates her permission).” (Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 67)

Narrated Khansa bint Khidam Al-Ansariya that her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that marriage. So she went to Allah’s Apostle and he declared that marriage invalid. (Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 69)

The Right of Women not to be Forced
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: Barira’s husband was a slave called Mughith, as if I am seeing him now, going behind Barira and weeping with his tears flowing down his beard. The Prophet said to ‘Abbas, “O ‘Abbas ! are you not astonished at the love of Mughith for Barira and the hatred of Barira for Mughith?” The Prophet then said to Barira, “Why don’t you return to him?” She said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Do you order me to do so?” He said, “No, I only intercede for him.” She said, “I am not in need of him.” (Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 63, Number 206)

Asserting Women’s Rights
Ibn Al-Jauzi narrated the virtues and merits of Umar bin Al-Khattab (Allah bless him) in the following words: Umar forbade the people from paying excessive dowries and addressed them saying: “Don’t fix the dowries for women over forty ounces. If ever that is exceeded I shall deposit the excess amount in the public treasury”. As he descended from the pulpit, a flat-nosed lady stood up from among the women audience, and said: “It is not within your right”. Umar asked: “Why should this not be of my right?” she replied: “Because Allah has proclaimed: ‘even if you had given one of them (wives) a whole treasure for dowry take not the least bit back. Would you take it by false claim and a manifest sin'”. (Al Nisa, 20). When he heard this, Umar said: “The woman is right and the man (Umar) is wrong. It seems that all people have deeper insight and wisdom than Umar”. Then he returned to the pulpit and declared: “O people, I had restricted the giving of more than four hundred dirhams in dowry. Whosoever of you wishes to give in dowry as much as he likes and finds satisfaction in so doing may do so”. quoted in: “On the Position and Role of Women in Islam and Islamic Society“

Seeking advice and comfort
Narrated ‘Aisha (the mother of the faithful believers): … Then Allah’s Apostle returned with the Inspiration and with his heart beating severely. Then he went to Khadija bint Khuwailid and said, “Cover me! Cover me!” They covered him till his fear was over and after that he told her everything that had happened and said, “I fear that something may happen to me.” Khadija replied, “Never! By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your kith and kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests generously and assist the deserving calamity-afflicted ones.” Khadija then accompanied him to her cousin Waraqa bin Naufal bin Asad bin ‘Abdul ‘Uzza … (Bukhari Volume 1, Book 1, Number 3)

The Characteristics of a Believing Man
Narrated AbuHurayrah: Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said: a believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Muslim Book 8, Number 3469)

The Education of Women
Narrated Abu Said: A woman came to Allah’s Apostle and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Men (only) benefit by your teachings, so please devote to us from (some of) your time, a day on which we may come to you so that you may teach us of what Allah has taught you.” Allah’s Apostle said, “Gather on such-and-such a day at such-and-such a place.” They gathered and Allah’s Apostle came to them and taught them of what Allah had taught him. (Bukhari Volume 9, Book 92, Number 413)

On the Treatment of Women
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri: I went to the Apostle of Allah (pbuh) and asked him: “What do you say (command) about our wives?” He replied: “Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them.” (Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2139) “The best of you is one who is best towards his family and I am best towards the family”. (At-Tirmithy). “None but a noble man treats women in an honourable manner. And none but an ignoble treats women disgracefully”. (At-Tirmithy).

A Husband must keep the Privacy of his Wife
Narrated AbuSa’id al-Khudri: Allah’s Messenger (peace_be_upon_him) said: The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgement is the man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret. (Muslim Book 8, Number 3369)

A Husband’s Attitude
‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA) said that a man came to his house to complain about his wife. On reaching the door of his house, he hears ‘Umar’s wife shouting at him and reviling him. Seeing this, he was about to go back, thinking that ‘Umar himself was in the same position and, therefore, could hardly suggest any solution for his problem. ‘Umar (RA) saw the man turn back, so he called him and enquired about the purpose of his visit. He said that he had come with a complaint against his wife, but turned back on seeing the Caliph in the same position. ‘Umar (RA) told him that he tolerated the excesses of his wife for she had certain rights against him. He said, “Is it not true that she prepares food for me, washes clothes for me and suckles my children, thus saving me the expense of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse, though she is not legally obliged in any way to do any of these things? Besides, I enjoy peace of mind because of her and am kept away from indecent acts on account of her. I therefore tolerate all her excesses on account of these benefits. It is right that you should also adopt the same attitude.” quoted in Rahman, Role of Muslim Women page 149

The Prophet’s Disapproval of Women Beaters
Patient behavior was the practice of the Prophet, even when his wife dared to address him harshly. Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, “Leave her alone; they do worse than that.” And once Abu Bakr, his father-in-law, was invited to settle some misunderstanding between him and Aishah. The Prophet said to her, “Will you speak, or shall I speak?” Aisha said, “You speak, but do not say except the truth.” Abu Bakr was so outraged that he immediately struck her severely, forcing her to run and seek protection behind the back of the Prophet. Abu Bakr said, “O you the enemy of herself! Does the Messenger of Allah say but the truth?” The Prophet said, “O Abu Bakr, we did not invite you for this [harsh dealing with Aishah], nor did we anticipate it.” quoted in: Mutual Rights and Obligations

And Allah (swt) knows best.

Source: http://www.maryams.net

Muslims as Terrorist: Read in Context Please!

This is a reply to a visitor who read many of the posts about Terrorism in Islam.  I felt some regret that my posts seemed to have little or no change in his way of thinking  but rather he insisted to list a rather long list of verses from the Qur’an and also Hadith which readily show the “hunger” of Muslims to slaughter, massacre or generally kill non- Muslims.

I will not get into this so deeply simply for the fact that he has taken all of these out of context of the situation they were revealed. All of those from the Quran were revealed after the believers had been attacked and were forced to fight. When you take only one verse out of its setting yes you will be shocked and say wow those Muslims are horrible and only know about terror. However let us see the real situation.

Why are there verses in the Qur’an that encourage Muslims to kill non-believers wherever they find them?

The Importance of Context

The word ‘context’ has two dictionary meanings:
1. The parts of a written or spoken statement that precede or follow a specific word or passage, usually influencing its meaning or effect. 2. The set of circumstances or facts that surround a particular event, situation, etc.

Any discussion on Qur’anic verses that refer to violence would be meaningless, without a study of the surrounding context. Before we study the verses in question, therefore, let us examine this issue in a wider perspective:

The Sanctity of Life

The Glorious Qur’an says:
“…take not life, which God hath made sacred, except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you, that ye may learn wisdom.” [Al-Qur’an 6:151]

Islam considers all life forms as sacred. However, the sanctity of human life is accorded a special place. The first and the foremost basic right of a human being is the right to live. The Glorious Qur’an says:
“…if any one slew a person – unless it be for murder or for spreading mischief in the land – it would be as if he slew the whole people: and if any one saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of the whole people.” [Al-Qur’an 5:32]

The value of human life is so great, that the Qur’an equates the taking of even one human life unjustly with the killing of all humanity.

The Verses of War

The words that often cause consternation among those unfamiliar with Islam, are: “…and slay them wherever ye catch them…”

The truth is that this is only part of verse 191 of Chapter 2 of the Qur’an. Let us read the verses 190 to 191 in order to get a complete picture:

“Fight in the cause of Allah those who fight you, but do not transgress limits; for Allah loveth not transgressors. And slay them wherever ye catch them, and turn them out from where they have Turned you out; for tumult and oppression are worse than slaughter; but fight them not at the Sacred Mosque, unless they (first) fight you there; but if they fight you, slay them. Such is the reward of those who suppress faith.” [Al-Qur’an 2:190-191]

It is a well-known fact of Islamic history, that fighting against aggressors was prohibited during the first thirteen years of the Prophet’s mission. After Muslims migrated to Medina, the verses above were revealed to enable the community to fight in self-defense. The verses that follow clearly indicate Islam’s prohibition on aggression and inclination towards peace:

“But if they cease, Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. And fight them on until there is no more tumult or oppression, and there prevail justice and faith in Allah; but if they cease, let there be no hostility except to those who practise oppression.” [Al-Qur’an 2:192-193]

The verses above specifically refer to fighting against oppression and in defense of religious freedom as the Glorious Qur’an says:
“Let there be no compulsion in religion” [Al-Qur’an 2:256]

Fair-Dealing Towards All

When read in context, the above verses do not even remotely suggest an exhortation for Muslims to be vicious or hateful towards people of other faiths. Far from this, the Qur’an actually requires that Muslims conduct themselves with fairness and dignity in all matters, and especially in regard to interfaith relations, as indicated by the following verse:

“Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.” [Al-Qur’an 60:8]

The verse you posted up do not reflect the other verses that are around them. For example, let us read this verse.. what do you think about it? [2:191] You may kill those who wage war against you, and you may evict them whence they evicted you. Oppression is worse than murder. Do not fight them at the Sacred Masjid, unless they attack you therein. If they attack you, you may kill them. This is the just retribution for those disbelievers.

You will feel it is very aggressive. Now put it into context with the situation that was occurring at that time,,,,

Rules of War*
[2:190] You may fight in the cause of GOD against those who attack you, but do not aggress. GOD does not love the aggressors.
Footnote

[2:191] You may kill those who wage war against you, and you may evict them whence they evicted you. Oppression is worse than murder. Do not fight them at the Sacred Masjid, unless they attack you therein. If they attack you, you may kill them. This is the just retribution for those disbelievers.

[2:192] If they refrain, then GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

[2:193] You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.

[2:194] During the Sacred Months, aggression may be met by an equivalent response. If they attack you, you may retaliate by inflicting an equitable retribution. You shall observe GOD and know that GOD is with the righteous.

[2:195] You shall spend in the cause of GOD; do not throw yourselves with your own hands into destruction. You shall be charitable; GOD loves the charitable.

Also, 4:89-90
89.
They but wish that ye should reject Faith, as they do, and thus be on the same footing (as they): But take not friends from their ranks until they flee in the way of Allah (From what is forbidden). But if they turn renegades, seize them and slay them wherever ye find them; and (in any case) take no friends or helpers from their ranks;-

90.
Except those who join a group between whom and you there is a treaty (of peace), or those who approach you with hearts restraining them from fighting you as well as fighting their own people. If Allah had pleased, He could have given them power over you, and they would have fought you: Therefore if they withdraw from you but fight you not, and (instead) send you (Guarantees of) peace, then Allah Hath opened no way for you (to war against them).

So you can see that always the path of peace and treaties is best and most loved by God however if someone is aggressing against you or attacking you then you have the right, and must, defend yourself. It is so simple as that.

Here, taken from a Christan dialog on the web: When the desertion of the hypocrites at Uhud nearly caused a disaster to the Muslim cause there was great feeling among the Muslims of Madinah against them. One party wanted to put them to the sword; another to leave them alone. The actual policy pursued avoided both extremes, and was determined by these verses.

It was clear that they were a danger to the Muslim community if they were admitted into its counsels, and in any case they were a source of demoralization. But while every caution was used, no extreme measures were taken against them. On the contrary, they were given a chance of making good.

If they made a sacrifice for the cause (“flee from what is forbidden”, see next verse) their conduct purged their previous cowardice, and their sincerity entitled them to be taken back. But if they deserted the Muslim community again, they were treated as enemies, with the additional penalty of desertion, which is enforced by all nations actually at war.

Even so, a human exception was made in the two cases specified in 4:90.
As Christians, we get upset when atheists quote the Bible out of context during their attacks on our faith.

It is therefore indefensible for a Christian to practice the same deceit.

I have to applaud this Christian for being open minded and honest and being able to see through all the media hype and mis information

I hope that this helps to clarify the issue of war being mentioned in the Qur’an and that people need to realize that these events really took place and the issues dealt with specifically are related to those events with general teachings given through them.

Basically you need to understand that Muslims should not be the aggressor – as stated clearly in the Qur’an, but have every right – and duty– to defend one self, community, homes, person, and family from aggression and attack.

Sakina

THE REAL EFFECT OF WEARING HIJAB:LIBERATION

Hijab is a ‘challenge to the political system’

simple full cover hijab

 

 

While Hijab may have political implications, as evident in the banning of Hijab in certain countries, Muslim women who choose to practice Hijab are not doing it to challenge the political system. Islam encourages men and women to observe modesty in private and public life. Hijab is an individual’s act of faith and religious expression.
I am liberated from slavery to ‘physical perfection’
Society makes women desire to become ‘perfect objects’. The multitudes of alluring fashion magazines and cosmetic surgeries show women’s enslavement to beauty. The entertainment industry pressures teens to believe that for clothes, less is better. When we wear Hijab, we vow to liberate ourselves from such desires and serve only God.

I don’t let others judge me by my hair and curves!
In schools and professional environments, women are often judged by their looks or bodies-characteristics they neither chose nor created. Hijab forces society to judge women for their value as human beings, with intellect, principles, and feelings. A woman in Hijab sends a message, “Deal with my brain, not my body!”

I feel empowered and confident
In contrast to today’s teenage culture, where anorexia and suicide are on the rise, as women attempt to reach an unattainable ideal of beauty, Hijab frees a woman from the pressure to ‘fit in’. She does not have to worry about wearing the right kind of jeans or the right shade of eyeshadow. She can feel secure about her appearance because she cares to please only Allah.

I feel the bond of unity
Hijab identifies us as Muslims and encourages other Muslim sisters to greet us with the salutation of peace, “Assalamu Alaikum”. Hijab draws others to us and immerses us in good company.
In some Arabic-speaking countries and Western countries, the word hijab primarily refers to women’s head and body covering, but in Islamic scholarship, hijab is given the wider meaning of modesty, privacy, and morality. The word used in the Qur’an for a headscarf or veil is khimār.
‘Those who harass believing men and believing women undeservedly, bear (on themselves)
a calumny and a grievous sin. O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believers that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad) That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.’
(Qur’an 33:58-59)

Proper Hijab means loose and opaque clothes. Clothes should not be alluring or similar to the clothing of men. What about guys? Islam outlines a modest dress code for men and women. The requirements are different based on the obvious physiological and psychological differences between the two genders.

Hijab does not apply only to clothes. It is a state of mind, behaviour, and lifestyle. Hijab celebrates a desirable quality called Haya (modesty), a deep concern for preserving one’s dignity. Haya is a natural feeling that brings us pain at the very idea of committing a wrong..

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said:
“Every religion has a distinct call. For Islam it is Haya (modesty).”

Since nothing but what is apparent may be shown (i.e. hands and face) the garment must be thick enough so that we cannot see the color of the skin it covers or the shape of the body. Once the Prophet (pbuh) saw Asma, the daughter of Abu Bakr, visiting Aishah while Asma was wearing a dress that was not thick enough. He turned his face away in anger and said:
“If the woman reaches the age of puberty, no part of her body should be seen, but this,” and he pointed to his face and his hands. Another time when the Prophet (pbuh) saw a bride wearing a thin dress, he said, “She is not a woman who believes in Surat-un Nur who wears this.” He also described the future condition of the Ummah which would be straying from the injunction of the Islamic dress code. “In later (generations) of my Ummah there will be women who will be dressed but naked on top of heads (what looks)like camel humps. Curse them for they am truly cursed.

About Debt in Islam

In a response to a question about debt in Islam I would like to post this reposnse which was taken from Islam Q and A :http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/71183

Praise be to Allaah.

THE HEAVINESS OF DEBT IN MORE THAN ONE WAY

Firstly:

The fuqaha’ define dayn (debt) as an obligation to be fulfilled, as it says in al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (21/102). The linguistic meaning of the word dayn (debt) in Arabic has to do with submission and humiliation. The connection between the shar’i meaning and the linguistic meaning is clear. The debtor is a prisoner, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Your companion is being detained by his debt.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 3341; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

Secondly

Islam takes the matter of debt very seriously and warns against it and urges the Muslim to avoid it as much as possible.

It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say in his prayer: “Allaahumma inni a’oodhi bika min al-ma’tham wa’l-maghram (O Allaah, I seek refuge with You from sin and heavy debt).” Someone said to him: “How often you seek refuge from heavy debt!” He said: “When a man gets into debt, he speak and tells lies, and he makes a promise and breaks it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (832) and Muslim (589).

Al-Nasaa’i (4605) narrated that Muhammad ibn Jahsh (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

We were sitting with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he raised his head towards the sky, then he put his palm on his forehead and said: “Subhaan-Allaah!  What a strict issue has been revealed to me!” We remained silent and were afraid. The following morning I asked him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is this strict issue that has been revealed?” He said, “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were killed in battle for the sake of Allaah, then brought back to life, then killed and brought back to life again, then killed, and he owed a debt, he would not enter Paradise until his debt was paid off.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, 4367.

Will I go to hell for no hijab?

Dear Sister, my daughter also went through similar feelings because she tried it before she was required to wear it, there fore I let her remove it with her understanding that when it was a required thing to do at puberty, I hoped she would accept to wear it for her own self and not for pleasing me.  Hijab is for yourself, for your dignity and modesty and for the pleasure of Allah swt. NOW, will you go to hell for it? We are not in any position to say no— or yes!!! This is only the right of Allah swt and those who presume to know will place themselves equal to His majesty.  Should you lie to your mom? NO…. you need to sit down with her and ask her for help, for strength,,, and look into the reasons why it bothers you to wear it.  Is it because of social pressure to take it off and fit in with ‘your friends’??? Know truely dearest sister, that true friends will love you no matter what you wear or how you look, and that is one of the purposes of hijab.  People need to see you for who YOU are not —-what you dress in. 
Some women who do not wear hijab do so because they think that iman or faith is enough, but we need to follow and submitt to what Allah has requested of us.  So yes hijab is a fard, or an obligation on us..  But it is also our crown that we should wear with pride and dignity.  Putting the hijab was a hard thing for me to do when I was 20,,, and I thought seriously of all I would give up or change in my life.. but when I put it I knew it was a great choice.  You have to choose it for yourself in order to please Allah, and when you choose to do so is in your hands, but don’t lie about it because you will also be lieing to yourself first of all.  Even if your mom doesnt see you — surely Allah does.  He knows what is in your heart more than anyone can and he understands well your struggles and feelings.  so trust in Allah and in His mercy and if you decide that now is not your time then you must make intention that soon  you will return to wearing it for His pleasure and your blessings.  May Allah swt guide you to the right choice and help you to over come these difficult feelings.  Lastly, let me just mention- as maybe I have in one of my articles here, that choosing the right kind of scarf is important!!! I have high school girls on our bus who wrap and wrap and wrap the material around their head and neck.  I look at them and wonder uffff how annoying —how can she stand it like that—- it would suffocate me and make me feel irritable.  My daughter wears the two piece which I also dont like because it feels tight, and short… Sooo I chose the square hijab that you fold in half as a triangle and then pin under the chin.  I use a comfy head band to hold the hijab in place so it doesnt slip around and bother me all day.  Play around with different kinds and see what makes you feel comfy and pretty and great knowing you are doing a good thing for yourself.  I pray that Allah will make it easy for you and give you the strength you need, and you will find out for yourself why you will want wear it!!

HIJAB – A CHOICE OR REQUIRED?

Question and Answer Details

Name of Questioner Shakir   – Sri Lanka   Title Hijab… a Must, Not a Choice   Date 29/Feb/2004   Question Hello, Dear Scholars. My question is about hijab. The usual question is whether or not it is obligatory. My question is a bit more basic. What Qur’anic verse or authentic hadith suggests that wearing the head cover is the compulsory? The most popular Qur’anic quotation relating to hijab, which is often quoted is An-Nur 24:31, which doesn’t explicitly say that the head should be covered. I would like to know all material —Qur’anic verses and authentic (not weak, not fabricated) hadith— on which the head cover ruling is based. If the ruling on head cover is a mere interpretation by scholars of the above Qur’anic verse, then I don’t find it so convincing. To my understanding, this Qur’anic verse merely asks women to dress decently, to cover their bosoms fully, and not display any temptation in that way. If scholars were to say that showing the hair is a temptation, then what about the face and hands? If that is the yardstick used, then not a single portion of a woman should be visible. Please reply to my question, as a lot of people would benefit from it. Wa salam.   Topic Virtues   Name of Counselor Sahar El-Nadi

Answer

Salam, Shakir. Thank you for your question. As you suggested, it is hoped that the answer would benefit many Muslims and non-Muslims who may have some misconceptions about hijab. Before providing you with Qur’anic proof and wisdom behind the religiously mandated hijab, let us first define some Arabic terms related to your question: Islam, hijab, and khimar. Arabic Words Have Many Meanings Arabic is a language very rich in shades of meaning for every word; translations often fail to do justice to Arabic verses for lack of appropriate vocabulary. Consequently, it is necessary, when addressing controversial issues, to look closely at the meaning of the Arabic words used in the original context. Let’s start from the meaning of the name of this religion: Islam. Meaning of the Arabic Word Islam and How Muslims Regard Islamic Rules Islam means total submission to Allah—in mind, heart, body, and soul—total acceptance of His laws and rules without doubts or arguments, total obedience to Him and His Messenger, and total refusal of shirk (associating anyone with Allah) in all its forms. The Qur’an states what means: *{It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error}* (Al-Ahzab 33:36). Muslims should not argue the commands, rules, or laws of Allah and His Prophet (peace be upon him). They do not need proof from Allah for everything He asks of them. Their obedience is the mark of their true faith. In addition, Islam is a complete way of life that should be wholly adhered to by its followers. Thus, Muslims are not supposed to worship selectively, picking out whatever rules or rituals appeal to them and leaving the rest. Denying a basic Islamic rule or ritual is a serious sin. Meaning of the Arabic Word Hijab Hijab in Arabic means “barrier” or “screen” and thus it appears in various Qur’anic verses, referring to many things besides the woman’s head cover. For example: Allah Almighty says in the Qur’an that He only talks to humans from behind a hijab. The Qur’an says what means: *{It is not given to any human being that Allah should speak to him unless [it be] by revelation, or from behind a veil}* (Ash-Shura 42:51). The Virgin Mary worshipped behind a hijab: *{She placed a screen [to screen herself] from them}* (Maryam 19:17). And, on Judgment Day there will be a hijab between the residents of Paradise and the residents of Hell: *{And between them will be a [barrier] screen}* (Al-A`raf 7:51). In all these verses, the Arabic word hijab was used to mean different things. In this light, let’s ponder the logic of hijab. The Qur’an teaches us to look around us with open eyes and minds, to think, rationalize, and reach logical conclusions. If we look at the universe, from the tiny atom to the huge celestial bodies, don’t we see how everything important or precious is protected and concealed with a cover? Think of the skin to the human body, the womb to the baby, the plasma wall to the cell, the bark to the tree trunks, the shell to the egg, even the entire planet we live on is enjoying the protection of a “hijab”—which we call the atmosphere—against the dangers of asteroids and harmful cosmic rays. Think how other planets—Mars for example— deprived of their “hijab” have suffered much harm. Meaning of the Word Khimar in Arabic The Arabic word khimar means “top-cover” and it also applies to many things besides women’s head covers. For example, it applies to the top covering a pot or jar, to any head cover worn by people even men. Notably, that’s where liquor and narcotics got their Arabic name khamr because they “cover” the reasoning when a person is intoxicated. Khimar is the word used to prescribe the head cover of Muslim women in the verse you referred to. The Qur’an says what means: *{And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons…}* (An-Nur 24:31). The meaning apparent to the Arabic reader is that in the presence of men who are not mahrams to a Muslim women, she should wear a head cover that extends long enough to cover the bosom, not that only the bosom is covered. Another verse in Surat Al-Ahzab clarifies this further. The Qur’an says what means: *{O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons [when abroad]; that is most convenient, that they should be known [as such] and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful}* (Al-Ahzab 33:59). The Arabic word used here to indicate the cover is the plural of jilbab. Ibn Taymiyyah stated in Majmu` Al-Fatawa 22:110-111: “The jilbab is a cover which is large enough to cover the woman’s head and the rest of her body hanging from the top of her head.” Further, the Qur’an instructs the Prophet’s Companions in words that mean: *{And when you ask [the Prophet’s wives] for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen}* (Al-Ahzab 33:53). The meaning of hijab in this verse is any object that conceals a woman such as a wall, a door, or clothes. The ruling of the verse, even though it was revealed concerning the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him), generally encompasses all Muslim women. This is because the wisdom behind the ruling is specified in the remainder of the verse. It says what means: *{that makes for greater purity for your hearts and theirs}* (Al-Ahzab 33:53). This wisdom is general among all men and women. Therefore the generality of the wisdom also indicates the general application of the rule as apparent in surah 33, verse 59 above. Islam uplifted women, gave them equality, and expects them to maintain their status. The status of women in Islam is often the target of attacks in the secular media. The hijab or the Islamic dress is cited by many as an example of the “subjugation” of women under Islamic law. Yet, the truth is that 1400 years ago, Islam recognized women’s rights in a way that grants them the utmost protection and respect as well, a combination other systems fail to offer. Islam granted them freedom of expression, political participation, business and financial rights, and asked the rest of society to hold them in high esteem and offer them due respect as mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters. In the Qur’an, Allah Almighty first mentions lowering the gaze for men before lowering the gaze and wearing hijab for women. The Qur’an teaches us what means: *{Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do}* (An-Nur 24:30). The moment a man looks at a woman with any brazen or unashamed thought in mind, he should lower his gaze. The next verse of Surat An-Nur is the one commanding believing women to wear the hijab. Islam expects women to maintain their status by following Allah’s rules designed for their advantage. Hijab is one such rule. Six Criteria for Hijab According to the Qur’an and Sunnah, there are basically six criteria for observing hijab: 1. It is obligatory for males to cover at least from the navel to the knees. For women, it is obligatory to cover the complete body except the face and the hands up to the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of hijab, especially if temptation (fitna) is feared in times and places where Islamic rules are not prevalent or if security is scarce. All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women: 2. The clothes should be loose and should not reveal the figure. 3. The clothes should not be transparent or see-through. 4. The clothes should not be so glamorous as to attract attention. 5. The clothes should not resemble those of the opposite sex. 6. The clothes should not resemble those of the unbelievers, that is, clothes that identify or are symbols of the unbelievers’ religions. Hijab Includes Conduct Complete hijab, besides the six criteria of clothing, also includes the moral conduct, behavior, attitude, and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of hijab of the clothes is observing hijab in a limited sense. Hijab of the clothes should be accompanied by hijab of the eyes, the heart, the thought, and the intention. It also includes the way a person walks, talks, and behaves. Therefore, the hypocritical use of hijab is not a good example of Muslim conduct. Hijab Prevents Molestation The Qur’an says that hijab enables women to be recognized as modest women and this will also protect them from being molested. Suppose there is a hooligan who is waiting to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? a girl wearing hijab, or one wearing a mini skirt or shorts? Hijab does not degrade a woman but uplifts a woman and protects her modesty and chastity. Lifting the Veil Will Not Uplift Women Woman’s liberalization mostly disguises exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honor. Non-Muslim societies claim to have uplifted women via allowing them to expose their bodies, but on the contrary, this has actually degraded them to mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketers, hidden behind the colorful screen of “art” and “culture.” Muslim women should be well aware of these facts. They should be aware that hijab protects them from evil glances and evil desires of those who are sick in the heart, as described in the Qur’an. Muslim women must adhere to Allah’s rules and not be persuaded or tempted by the media that opposes hijab or belittles its significance, as those who spread these ideas only desire evil for her. The Qur’an warns by saying what means: *{But the wish of those who follow their lusts is that you should deviate away [from the right path], -far, far away}* (An-Nisaa’ 4:27). I hope this answers your question and satisfies your inquiries. Thank you and please keep in touch. Salam. FIND MORE AT: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?cid=1123996016350&pagename=IslamOnline-English-AAbout_Islam/AskAboutIslamE/AskAboutIslamE

WHY BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE

Why Bad Things Happen to Good People

Written by Yusuf Estes

Monday, 12 June 2006

“Why does God lets me go through emotional pain and abuse by those whom I love?” And two more questions – “Allah tests those whom He Loves” Question: – “I come from a Muslim country, yet I neither speak nor understand Arabic, except for Quran, even though I don’t really understand everything I am reading. I have questions regarding Allah’s interference with a person’s life, both Muslims and non-Muslims as well, and about relationships with others and the concept of Allah’s love. I often wonder why Allah would let me go through emotional pain and abuse by those men in my life whom I love. The only trial of life I cannot bear is the mistreatment or emotional abuse by men. Yet, it seems to me Allah is allowing these things to happen to me – over and over again. Because of this, I feel I am loosing my faith and have even considered doing away with my life. I need help to understand. My questions are: 1.) Why does Allah need to give a hard trial in someone’s life to test their faith? Can’t He just make it easy for us? Then we could practice our religion without any worry, agony or emotional torture? 2.)  What should be done to a person who has hurt me so terrible in my life? What if the person seems to live on a bed of roses and is enjoying my suffering without being punished or even having Karma coming back to him? When this happens, what does Allah really mean? 3.) Why is a Muslim man allowed to marry non-Muslim women, but women are not allowed to marry from the non-Muslim men? If it is because a non-Muslim man is not supposed to lead a Muslim woman because he might take her to the wrong path, doesn’t this conflict with the idea of each person being responsible for their conduct? What if the non-Muslim husband can accept the way of his wife’s Islamic life and give her 100% support and never interfere? Please answer to ease my pain. __ Thank you for your question. Before we begin to provide answers, here are some important points to keep in mind; as Muslims we accept what Allah tells in Quran over anything others may say or do. We have our Quran today, just as it was recited at the time of Muhammad, peace be upon him. The hadeeth of our prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, explain the Quran and how to apply its teachings. This is a very unique part of Islam, not available in any other ancient religions. But sometimes questions contain statements that are not true, as in some of what you wrote. This must be cleared up first before attempting to provide answers. Often times, people have told us they found information they never knew before about Islam and its teachings and this helped them to come to a much better understand and able to form better opinions based on this correct knowledge. If, while reading the answers to your questions, you find yourself saying, “Gee, I didn’t know that” or “This is something good” or “I like this much better now that I understand it” then you are experiencing what most of us go through as we come to learn more and more about our deen of Islam. This life, here on earth is a “test” from Allah as you have rightly pointed out. The whole idea is whether or not we will worship Allah with all of our heart, mind and soul, or whether we will choose to devote oursleves to something other than Allah. This what Islam is really all about. The most important subject is the worship of Almighty God, without any partners or associates or “gods” besides Almighty God.  Your questions are similar to those that we hear everyday, not only from the non-Muslims, but also from the Muslims who have not had the opportunity to study and learn the true religion of Islam. This is most unfortunate and sad when you think about it. The Muslims have the solution to the problems that plague the world today, yet they do not even know themselves how beautiful and wonderful is their own religion. You may ask yourself, “Why?” Why is it that Muslims do not even know the basic tenants of their own religion? Good question. Simply put; “Material distraction.” We Muslims today are so preoccupied with making money and increasing our status in this life, that we do not spend proper time in learning anything about our purpose in this life. About this Allah Says: Do people think that they will be left alone on saying, “We believe” and they won’t be tested? For sure, just as those before them were tested, Allah will test them to show the truthful in their sincerity and expose the liars in their falsehood. [Surah Ankabut 29:2-3] (1) You mentioned in your letter that you are suffering at the hands of those whom you love. The abuse and treatment of these people against you has caused you to question Allah. This means what? That you know what is better for you than Allah? Maybe not.  You were also correct in mentioning what many others have stated about not having enough knowledge about Arabic and the meansings of the words in depth. There are two important words we often throw around without considering what they really mean. Let us being with these two words. 1> Allah (there is no word in English for Allah. The word “God” is the same as the word “god” only with a capital letter – for more about the meaning of “Allah” visit our site: www.godallah.com  2> Islam (this is not just the name of a religion. “Islam” is from the verb “aslama” and describes our relationship with Allah. For more details visit our site: www.IslamTomorrow.com/word After you have read and understood the meanings these two words in the Arabic language, perhaps it will then be easier to begin your journey of life in Islam. Until then, you will only continue to be confused and misunderstand your place in this creation of Allah. It is not my purpose here to teach a class on the basics of Islam. However, I would invite you to visit our website on these important issues and then you should write back to me AFTER you have done a little study into the basics of what it is that we Muslims are to believe, inshallah.  Please do yourself a big favor and read . . . READ. “ISLAM” – http://www.IslamTomorrow.com/word/ “ALLAH” – http://www.islamtomorrow.com/islam/allah.htm There are many words that must be understood from the point of view of Islam prior to making any judgments about what they mean. Another important word for us to understand is:  “QURAN” www.islamtomorrow.com/quran.asp And for a free Quran downloaded to your computer visit: www.islamtomorrow.com/free After spending some time reading and understanding these basics of Islam, it then becomes possible to continue your studies and begin to ask logical questions, such as; “What is our purpose here in this life?” PURPOSE OF LIFE – www.islamtomorrow.com/purpose.htm Search our new site for many subjects: www.searchforislam.com  After reading and understanding the above articles, perhaps you will be able to find some very important clues as to what is going on in this life and what we are supposed to be doing. You will still have questions, I’m sure about that. But at least you will know some of the basics and not make the mistake of using terms like “Allah is interfering in your life.” Please write back to me and let me know if this was of any assistance to you in your search for truth, inshallah. I have also included below a number of very important links for you to check out. We are here  for you sister, and you can even come on line and hear us and chat with us for live and rebroadcast programs at: www.IslamAlways.com (follow the links to radio and TV broadcasts) Salam alaykum, Yusuf Estes Muslim Chaplain – Washington, DC – USA