DON’T HOPE,…DECIDE!

February 17, 2012

Here is another exceptional article which shows the importance of really paying attention and showing those around us that we love them. Life is short! Take time to smell the flowers, notice the sun rise, sun set, the needs of your next door neighbors, your relatives, that lonely clerk in the office who everyone ignores and the janitor whom no one can remember his name.  Although Islamicaly kissing one’s wife in public may not be condoned, this article shows the beauty of really paying attention to our loved ones and making, and keeping eye contact, listening to what someone is saying.. learning that our computer program, project  or chore is not more important that a few minutes of undivided attention.  Minutes pass us by like water in a river,,, it will never come back again.  Do not live your life in such a way that when you are older you wish you had said, done, shown, expressed, played a board game, read a book together, taken that momentous decision that you are afraid of.. Life is risk and chances and Allah asks us to make all of our efforts a worship… Start all of our actions with Bismillah and smile at your brother,, lend that helping hand.. “Pay it Forward.”

Dont Hope– Decide!

Muslim Couple

From PhotoBucket

– By Michael D. Hargrove and Bottom Line Underwriters, Inc.

While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life-changing experiences that you hear other people talk about — the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me.

Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jet way, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.

First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other’s face, I heard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!” His son smiled somewhat shyly, averted his eyes and replied softly, “Me, too, Dad!”

Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son’s face in his hands said, “You’re already quite the young man. I love you very much, Zach!” They too hugged a most loving, tender hug.

 While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one-and-a-half) was squirming excitedly in her mother’s arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, “Hi, baby girl!” as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder, motionless in pure contentment.

After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, “I’ve saved the best for last!” and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed. “I love you so much!” They stared at each other’s eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands.

For an instant they reminded me of newlyweds, but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn’t possibly be. I puzzled about it for a moment then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm’s length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I was invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, “Wow! How long have you two been married?

 “Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those.” he replied, without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife’s face. “Well then, how long have you been away?” I asked. The man finally turned and looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile. “Two whole days!”

 Two days? I was stunned. By the intensity of the greeting, I had assumed he’d been gone for at least several weeks – if not months. I know my expression betrayed me.

I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), “I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!”

 The man suddenly stopped smiling.

 He looked me straight in the eye, and with forcefulness that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, “Don’t hope, friend… decide!” Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, “God bless!”


WHY DO WOMEN CRY?

June 30, 2011

A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”

 

“Because I need to” she said.

 

“I don’t understand,” he said.

 

His mother just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

 

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

 

“All women cry for no reason,” his dad answered carelessly.

 

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). “He surely knows the answer”, he thought.

 

“Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?”

 

The Shaikh answered:

 

“When Allah made the woman she had to be special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

 

He gave an inner strength to endure both childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

 

He gave her a toughness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

 

He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her badly.

 

He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

 

And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, it’s hers.

 

You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”

 

Originally published at fathimaonline.wordpress.com


There are Times in Life, You Just Have to Laugh

March 3, 2011

I just had to post this article to share with you all,,from the son of a dear friend, Ahmad makes an important point that too often we forget. Sometimes life just runs away with us and we need to find a way to put on the brakes!!! Enjoy and watch his link for future interesting posts..

 

 

A typical day for me consists of being locked up in a classroom on campus all day and then coming home to enjoy the constant yelling of my 2 year old sister…there’s no such thing as silence in our home. A couple nights ago I get home, sit at the table, start eating dinner and working on my laptop. Being the nosy little thing that she is my sister comes by pokes around in my backpack, try’s to pick food off my plate and is just being a nuisance. Later on she asks me to open the wrapper to a chocolate for her. I open the wrapper and she runs off happily. A few minutes later the troll returns, sits next to me and smiles. (She might only be 2 but she knew exactly what she was about to do) Smiling, she looks at me, throws the chocolate at me and then immediately smacks her chocolate infested hands all over the keyboard on my MacBook…now I’m livid. At the time I was PISSED! But I’m writing about it now and laughing as I look at her.

washing a keyboard

not recommended

Sometimes we need to stop for a second and ask ourselves how significant is what just happened. Steven Covey wrote about the 90/10 principle; “10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.” Had I taken this principle into consideration before steaming through my ears I probably would’ve laughed and taken a few good photos I could have posted. Instead I just have a bunch of words on a page and a little sister who will probably do it again since she gets a kick out of making me mad. All it really took was the swipe of a paper towel to clean the mess, so I obviously overacted to such an insignificant thing.

Were always going to be faced with some type of adversity or hardship no matter what we do in life. But don’t be afraid to just pause for a moment and laugh, you’d be amazed at how much more fun things are when your not taking them so seriously.

from: http://ahmadtaleb.tumblr.com/post/3414863283/sometimes-you-just-have-to-laugh?sms_ss=facebook&at_xt=4d6fdd85a7d5ade2,0


KINDNESS TO PARENTS

February 12, 2011

by Musa Sadiqueuallah

 

holding a baby hand

 

Last week a terrible incident happened to one of my closest friend’s relative, a 91 years old father & mother, were thrown out from their own house, by their own two sons in Dhaka. The elderly couple had distributed all their several houses and properties to their sons & daughters. Do they really deserve this kind of treatment being parent ?

 

Now a days, I am not sure why people, keep their most beloved parents in “Old Homes”. Won’t they deserve a liitle love & affection from their flesh & blood!

 

The parents are entitled by right to kind and dutiful treatment from their children. Since this is an important duty that Allah emphasized so strongly, it is essential for every human being to know what constitutes kind treatment of parents. It is no exaggeration to say that for a believer, to be a dutiful son or daughter is to take the way that surely leads to heaven.

 

We note first that Islam uses the Arabic word birr in connection with children’s attitude towards their parents. The term connotes kindness, compassion, benevolence, and almost every aspect of good and generous treatment of others. One of Allah’s own attributes is derived from this root. Allah is the “Barr,” which means that His kindness, compassion, grace, and generosity never fail. Scholars say that this term includes everything that is good.

 

In Surah Luqman Aya : 14 “And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.”

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LIFE IS MISERABLE: HOW CAN I MAKE IT?

November 27, 2010

Coffee bean

Image via Wikipedia

Potatoes , Eggs . . and Coffee beans

by I am trying to be a good Muslim on Saturday, November 27, 2010 at 7:33am

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it.

She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen . . He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.

Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing !

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl , He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl , He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.

 

Turning to her, he asked: “Daughter, what do you see?” “

Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.

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CHOOSING BEST FRIENDS FOREVER

October 22, 2010

Nazir Muhammad October 22 at 9:58pm Reply • Report

Who we keep company with is reflective of who we are
For as far back as I can remember, my parents would always admonish me and my siblings to keep good company. My Dad specially had a favorite saying, “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.”
Needless to say, I was always very conscious, and careful about choosing the right people to surround myself with. In Islam it is doubly true and essential to surround yourself with righteous companions, because they will help to keep your feet planted on the straight path, while doing otherwise may lead you astray.

best friendsIt was Ahmad ibn Harb, rahimahullaah, who said, “There is nothing more beneficial to a Muslim’s heart than to mix with the righteous and to watch their actions, while nothing is more harmful to the heart of the Muslim than mixing with sinners, and watching their actions.” No matter who you are, or how strong or independent you may feel, no man, or woman, is an island, and you can’t make it through this life alone. This is why Islam so stresses the Jama’ah, or the congregation.

The sayings that there is strength in numbers and that it is the lone sheep that gets devoured by the wolf are true.

Therefore we need to adopt correct manners, in that we try ardently never to do an action or to befriend anyone without knowing whether the pleasure of Allah is in it or not, and never loving and hating for worldly reasons. For the Prophet of Allah, sallallahu alayhi wassalaam said, “Whoever loves for Allah, and hates for Allah, gives for Allah and withholds for Allah, has completed his faith.” (Abu Dawud) So who should be our companions? First of all they should be good Muslims, who believe in Allah and His Messenger. For Allah says in the Qur’an, “And who so obeys Allah and the Messenger [Muhammad, sallallahu alayhe wassalaam], then they will be in the company of those on whom Allah has bestowed His Grace, of the prophets, the Siddiqun (those followers of the prophets who were first and foremost to believe in them), the martyrs, and the righteous. And
how excellent these companions are.” [4:69]

Secondly, being around them should make you want to increase in good deeds. Allah ta’ala says, “And We have sent down to you [O Muhammad, sallallahu alayhe wasallam], the Book [this Qur’an] in truth, confirming the Scriptures that came before it and Mohayminan [trustworthy in highness and a witness] over it. So judge between them by what Allah has revealed, and follow not their vain desires, diverging away from the truth that has come to you. To each among you, We have prescribed a law and a clear way. If Allah willed, He would have made you one nation, but that [He] may test you in what He has given you; so strive as in a race in good deeds. The return of you [all] is to Allah; then He will inform you about that in which you used to differ.” [5:48]

By aligning ourselves with people who do good deeds, we are then prompted to compete with them in this regard, and thus improving the character and the religion of everyone involved.

Lastly, but by no means the least, our companions should help us to remember Allah. For Allah ta’ala says, “O you who believe! Let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. And whosoever does this, then they are the losers.” [63:9] In this time of hustle and bustle, it is very easy for us to get caught up in the pursuit of worldly gains. This is why it is increasingly important to surround ourselves with people, who will encourage us to think of
Allah, in every instance of our lives. The superiority of the remembrance of Allah was explained by the Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, who said, “The example of the one who remembers his Lord, in comparison to the one who does not remember his Lord, is that of a living creature compared to a dead one. (Bukhari)

So let us take stock of the people we spend our time with. Do they fall into the above categories? If our friends aren’t doing these things, then what does being with them say about us? We should
strive to love those who love Allah, and to hate those who hate Allah, and what He has sent down of guidance for humanity. For the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam said, “Whoever possesses
three things will find the sweetness of eman. For Allah and His Messenger to be more beloved to him than anything else; to love a person for Allah’s sake alone; and to hate to return to disbelief
the way he hates to be thrown into the fire.” (Bukhari)

Sumayyah bint Joan

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Time, Love, Praise and Encouragement in Relationships

August 29, 2010

THIS HAS GOT TO BE THE BEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN IN SUCH A LONG TIME AND REALLY ITS SO NECESSARY FOR EVERYONE TO LISTEN TO HIS ADVICE IN ALL SECTORS OF LIFE.   WHAT A GREAT GUY.   “YOUR SPOUSE IS A GIFT TO YOU.” “YOUR PARENTS ARE A GIFT TO YOU.”  WE HAVE CHOICES WE CAN MAKE TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE– LETS DO IT!!!  THE SMALL THINGS ADD UP TO BE HUGE THINGS.

oriana   I REST MY CASE I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND ALL WHAT HAS BEEN SAID IN THIS VIDEO.  I do appreciate your comments…


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