Mufti Menk Gives a Fantastic Lecture about Ramadan and its Etiquette

July 16, 2013

Mufti Menk

LECTURE LINK

I hope many people take the time to watch or listen to this lecture.  It is about an hour long but so worth the time and effort.  This Scholar is just so humble and close to the hearts of people.  Most of all – what he says makes so much sense.  Please let me know what you think after listening to this.  For those who are not Muslim, there is much in this for any God fearing people.  Just keep in mind what most people do not know,  “Allah” is the Arabic word translation for “God” in English.  Allah is not some odd unknown god, He is the same God of Abraham Issac Jacob, Noah and all other known prophets and messengers sent before.  Enjoy!

sakina and sarah

Advertisements

The Honor of a Woman

January 11, 2013

This is a combination of lectures regarding women in Islam.  They are very informational and motivational.. I hope you like it.  A nice reminder is that Islam elevates the status of women through the hadith in which a companion came to the prophet pbuh asking:  Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported: A person came to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Who among the people is most deserving my companionship (of a kind treatment from me?) He said: Your mother. He, again, said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: It is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: It is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he (The Prophet (peace be upon him)) said: It is your father.


Hijab: Fashion or Worship?

August 13, 2012

Recently the trend of wearing hijab has increased.  Many will think this is a great thing.  However, looking at the interpretations of how hijab can be worn often leaves room for debate and heated discussion as well as disappointment that the meaning of hijab is being lost in this new fashion show.

As a sample, the photo below shows a type of hijab which is very colorful, has added decorations, does not cover the sides of the face, and the woman had matching loud eye shadow and lipstick.  Sadly to say, such hijab is not within the definition of the requirements of hijab. The other photo does not cover the hairline properly and is folded in such a way which shows the neck and jaw line which falls under the definition of the verse below; juyubihinna refers to the “neck slit” of a dress, so that if this is covered it will also cover the neck and bosom.

If we go to the verse in the Quran, Allah has specifically stated that the beauty of the women which is allowed to show is that which appears naturally, in otherwords any shape which may show due to the wind blowing her outer garment against her, or for those who allow the face to appear, the natural skin tone without make up or jewelry.

The hijab is an act of obedience to Allah and to his prophet (pbuh), Allah says in the Qur’an: `It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed in a plain error.’ (S33:36).

Allah also said: ‘And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) and not to show off their adornment except what must (ordinarily) appear thereof, that they should draw their veils over their Juyubihinna.'(S24:31).

Although it is a normal process for those who recently don wearing hijab to start with baby steps and make continuous adjustments as their comfort and iman grow, it is vital that we educate our brothers and sisters about what hijab really means.  Briefly, hijab should meet these criteria:

  • Complete Body should be covered. -Except the hands and face. Some scholars believe that the face and hands should be covered. i.e the niqab.
  • The chest should be covered. You can find the evidence on Surah Noor (24) Verse 31. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms
  • The clothes should not be see through or transparent.
  •  Clothes should not resemble the unbelievers, for example other religious artifacts.
  •  The clothes should not be too tight that it reveals the figure. The clothes should be “roomy” It should not describe your body figure.
  • Do not add perfume to your Hijab or clothing. There is actually a Hadith on perfume: Allah’s Messenger (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: Every eye is lustful and when a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such, i.e. an adulteress. (Mishkat Hadith1065) 
  • Hijab should not attract attention, display, or fame. It should not be an adornment itself.
  • Should not be so glamorous that attracts the opposite sex.
  • A Muslimahs’ clothing, dress should not resemble the clothing of men. ie. the opposite sex. (This also goes for men, they should not imitate women’s dress).

List is from Muslima Matters

 


Fasting Only Fifty Percent

August 13, 2012

by Asma bint Shameem [iloveAllaah.com Exclusive Writer]

What if you hire someone to do something for you, but they only do part of the job and leave the rest incomplete? Will you recompense them fully for a job completed?

And what do you think a teacher would say if a student turns in only some of his homework and fails to do the rest of it? Will he get full marks for it?

And what about a child who is supposed to clean his whole room, but he only cleans HALF of it? Do you think he did what was required of him? Would you reward him for a job well done?

The answer to all of the above is an obvious NO.

That’s because they did not complete what they were supposed to do and only did part of it. And thus they do not deserve to be fully rewarded.

Similarly, my dear sister, is the case when you fast but you don’t wear hijaab.

Yes, that’s right.

Do you realize, dear sister, that by not wearing hijaab, you are only doing part of the job and not doing whole of it?

You see, just as much as fasting is a fard (obligation) on you, in like manner, the hijab is also, just as equally, fard on you.

The One Who made the FAST an obligation on you and me is the same Lord Who also made the HIJAAB an obligation on you and me.

Allaah says: “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. over themselves) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women, or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful” [al-Noor 24:31]

And there are so many other ayaat and ahaadeeth that clearly order believing women to cover themselves.

Do you not want to be one of them?

Don’t you want to obey the One who created you, gave you life, food, health, family, friends and everything that you know and don’t know of ??!! Read the rest of this entry »


Beautiful Muslim Marriages: Righteous Wives

January 23, 2012

Most of the post I put up are pretty good, or I would not post them but once in a while I come across one which really means alot and just seems to cover so many points with necessary and accurate information that I wish I had a million sites to upload it to.  This is one such article.  It really covers many points related to the relationship between husbands and wives.  I hope that it offers many answers for those who need this information for their daughters, sisters and even for making their own marriages better by following the sunnah.  May Allah reward this author.


Marriage in Islam

In Islam, marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, co-operation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Qur’aan has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms:

(And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts] . . . (Qur’aan 30:21)

This is the strongest of bonds, in which Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) unites the two Muslim partners, who come together on the basis of love, understanding, co-operation and mutual advice, and establish a Muslim family in which children will live and grow up, and they will develop the good character and behavior taught by Islam. The Muslim family is the strongest component of a Muslim society when its members are productive and constructive, helping and encouraging one another to be good and righteous, and competing with one another in good works.

The righteous woman is the pillar, cornerstone and foundation of the Muslim family. She is seen as the greatest joy in a man’s life, as the Prophet (SAW) said:

“This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is a righteous woman.”1

A righteous woman is the greatest blessing that Allah (subhaanahu wa ‘ta’aalaa) can give to a man, for with her he can find comfort and rest after the exhausting struggle of earning a living. With his wife, he can find incomparable tranquility and pleasure.

How can a woman be the best comfort in this world? How can she be a successful woman, true to her own femininity, and honored and loved? This is what will be explained in the following pages:

She chooses a good husband

One of the ways in which Islam has honored woman is by giving her the right to choose her husband. Her parents have no right to force her to marry someone she dislikes. The Muslim woman knows this right, but she does not reject the advice and guidance of her parents when a potential suitor comes along, because they have her best interests at heart, and they have more experience of life and people. At the same time, she does not forego this right because of her father’s wishes that may make him force his daughter into a marriage with someone she dislikes.

There are many texts that support the woman in this sensitive issue, for example the report quoted by Imam Al-Bukhaari from al-Khansa’ bint Khidam:

“My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) . He said to me: ‘Accept what your father has arranged.’ I said, ‘I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.’ He said, ‘Then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.’ I said, ‘I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them).’”2

At first, the Prophet (SAW) told al-Khansa’ to obey her father, and this is as it should be, because the concern of fathers for their daughters’ well being is well known. But when he realized that her father wanted to force her into a marriage she did not want, he gave her the freedom to choose, and saved her from the oppression of a father who wanted to force her into an unwanted marriage.

Islam does not want to impose an unbearable burden on women by forcing them to marry a man they dislike, because it wants marriages to be successful, based on compatibility between the partners; there should be common ground between them in terms of physical looks, attitudes, habits, inclinations and aspirations. If something goes wrong, and the woman feels that she cannot love her husband sincerely, and fears that she may commit the sin of disobeying and opposing this husband whom she does not love, then she may ask for a divorce. This is confirmed by the report in which the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammas, Jamilah the sister of ‘Abdullah ibn Ubayy, came to the Prophet (SAW) and said: “O Messenger of Allah (SAW), I have nothing against Thabit ibn Qays as regards his religion or his behavior, but I hate to commit any act of kufr when I am a Muslim. The Prophet (SAW) said: “Will you give his garden back to him?” – her mahr had been a garden. She said, “Yes.” So the Messenger of Allah (SAW) sent word to him: “Take back your garden, and give her one pronouncement of divorce.”3

According to a report given by Al-Bukhaari from Ibn ‘Abbas, she said, “I do not blame Thabit for anything with regard to his religion or his behavior, but I do not like him.”

Islam has protected woman’s pride and humanity, and has respected her wishes with regard to the choice of a husband with whom she will spend the rest of her life. It is not acceptable for anyone, no matter who he is, to force a woman into a marriage with a man she does not like. Read the rest of this entry »


Beauty of Hijab

January 15, 2012


WHY DO WOMEN CRY?

June 30, 2011

A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”

 

“Because I need to” she said.

 

“I don’t understand,” he said.

 

His mother just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

 

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

 

“All women cry for no reason,” his dad answered carelessly.

 

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). “He surely knows the answer”, he thought.

 

“Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?”

 

The Shaikh answered:

 

“When Allah made the woman she had to be special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

 

He gave an inner strength to endure both childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

 

He gave her a toughness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

 

He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her badly.

 

He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

 

And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, it’s hers.

 

You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”

 

Originally published at fathimaonline.wordpress.com


%d bloggers like this: