Will I go to hell for no hijab?


Dear Sister, my daughter also went through similar feelings because she tried it before she was required to wear it, there fore I let her remove it with her understanding that when it was a required thing to do at puberty, I hoped she would accept to wear it for her own self and not for pleasing me.  Hijab is for yourself, for your dignity and modesty and for the pleasure of Allah swt. NOW, will you go to hell for it? We are not in any position to say no— or yes!!! This is only the right of Allah swt and those who presume to know will place themselves equal to His majesty.  Should you lie to your mom? NO…. you need to sit down with her and ask her for help, for strength,,, and look into the reasons why it bothers you to wear it.  Is it because of social pressure to take it off and fit in with ‘your friends’??? Know truely dearest sister, that true friends will love you no matter what you wear or how you look, and that is one of the purposes of hijab.  People need to see you for who YOU are not —-what you dress in. 
Some women who do not wear hijab do so because they think that iman or faith is enough, but we need to follow and submitt to what Allah has requested of us.  So yes hijab is a fard, or an obligation on us..  But it is also our crown that we should wear with pride and dignity.  Putting the hijab was a hard thing for me to do when I was 20,,, and I thought seriously of all I would give up or change in my life.. but when I put it I knew it was a great choice.  You have to choose it for yourself in order to please Allah, and when you choose to do so is in your hands, but don’t lie about it because you will also be lieing to yourself first of all.  Even if your mom doesnt see you — surely Allah does.  He knows what is in your heart more than anyone can and he understands well your struggles and feelings.  so trust in Allah and in His mercy and if you decide that now is not your time then you must make intention that soon  you will return to wearing it for His pleasure and your blessings.  May Allah swt guide you to the right choice and help you to over come these difficult feelings.  Lastly, let me just mention- as maybe I have in one of my articles here, that choosing the right kind of scarf is important!!! I have high school girls on our bus who wrap and wrap and wrap the material around their head and neck.  I look at them and wonder uffff how annoying —how can she stand it like that—- it would suffocate me and make me feel irritable.  My daughter wears the two piece which I also dont like because it feels tight, and short… Sooo I chose the square hijab that you fold in half as a triangle and then pin under the chin.  I use a comfy head band to hold the hijab in place so it doesnt slip around and bother me all day.  Play around with different kinds and see what makes you feel comfy and pretty and great knowing you are doing a good thing for yourself.  I pray that Allah will make it easy for you and give you the strength you need, and you will find out for yourself why you will want wear it!!

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11 Responses to Will I go to hell for no hijab?

  1. Momin says:

    “Some women who do not wear hijab do so because they think that iman or faith is enough, but we need to follow and submitt to what Allah has requested of us. So yes hijab is a fard, or an obligation on us.”

    Wrong. And NO, Hijab is not even mentioned in the Quran so it can not be commanded by God and thus it is not obligatory.

    This is all interpretation. What Allah does say, however, is that ones attire should be modest. There are many ways to be modest, whether you show your hair or not.

    Hijab is modern day innovation by the religious male authorities.

    There are many women who are practising muslims, live pure, modest and decent lives. So it depends on the individual and how they interpret modesty. Allah also warns that modesty comes from within. Something many people perhaps deliberately forget today.

  2. sorry to disagree however I do believe that all the articles within my site do show that in the Quran it specificlaly states that God has requested all believing women to draw their outer garments over themselves, and when one goes back to the pure Arabic language, (and this is why the Quran is never accepted as pure when it its translated because meanings change and get lost) it states very very clearly that the KHIMAR which was a head covering,,, is to be drawn over the JAYUBIHUM, which is the “neck slit” of the dress which allows for the shirts or dresses to be put on and usually can show the chest area,, there for this whole area should be covered from the material which covers the head….

    Concerning the issue of modesty, you are correct.. it is not just about putting on modest clothing and then acting in immodest manners…. therefor I will post here another comment a reader recently posted to the site. hope you enjoy her comments…. she is right on!!!

    Hijab is a ‘challenge to the political system’

    While Hijab may have political implications, as evident in the banning of Hijab in certain countries, Muslim women who choose to practice Hijab are not doing it to challenge the political system. Islam encourages men and women to observe modesty in private and public life. Hijab is an individual’s act of faith and religious expression.
    I am liberated from slavery to ‘physical perfection’
    Society makes women desire to become ‘perfect objects’. The multitudes of alluring fashion magazines and cosmetic surgeries show women’s enslavement to beauty. The entertainment industry pressures teens to believe that for clothes, less is better. When we wear Hijab, we vow to liberate ourselves from such desires and serve only God.

    I don’t let others judge me by my hair and curves!
    In schools and professional environments, women are often judged by their looks or bodies-characteristics they neither chose nor created. Hijab forces society to judge women for their value as human beings, with intellect, principles, and feelings. A woman in Hijab sends a message, “Deal with my brain, not my body!”

    I feel empowered and confident
    In contrast to today’s teenage culture, where anorexia and suicide are on the rise, as women attempt to reach an unattainable ideal of beauty, Hijab frees a woman from the pressure to ‘fit in’. She does not have to worry about wearing the right kind of jeans or the right shade of eyeshadow. She can feel secure about her appearance because she cares to please only Allah.

    I feel the bond of unity
    Hijab identifies us as Muslims and encourages other Muslim sisters to greet us with the salutation of peace, “Assalamu Alaikum”. Hijab draws others to us and immerses us in good company.
    In some Arabic-speaking countries and Western countries, the word hijab primarily refers to women’s head and body covering, but in Islamic scholarship, hijab is given the wider meaning of modesty, privacy, and morality. The word used in the Qur’an for a headscarf or veil is khimār.
    ‘Those who harass believing men and believing women undeservedly, bear (on themselves)
    a calumny and a grievous sin. O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believers that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad) That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.’
    (Qur’an 33:58-59)

    Proper Hijab means loose and opaque clothes. Clothes should not be alluring or similar to the clothing of men. What about guys? Islam outlines a modest dress code for men and women. The requirements are different based on the obvious physiological and psychological differences between the two genders.

    Hijab does not apply only to clothes. It is a state of mind, behaviour, and lifestyle. Hijab celebrates a desirable quality called Haya (modesty), a deep concern for preserving one’s dignity. Haya is a natural feeling that brings us pain at the very idea of committing a wrong..

    The Prophet (s.a.w.) said:
    “Every religion has a distinct call. For Islam it is Haya (modesty).”

    Since nothing but what is apparent may be shown (i.e. hands and face) the garment must be thick enough so that we cannot see the color of the skin it covers or the shape of the body. Once the Prophet (pbuh) saw Asma, the daughter of Abu Bakr, visiting Aishah while Asma was wearing a dress that was not thick enough. He turned his face away in anger and said:
    “If the woman reaches the age of puberty, no part of her body should be seen, but this,” and he pointed to his face and his hands. Another time when the Prophet (pbuh) saw a bride wearing a thin dress, he said, “She is not a woman who believes in Surat-un Nur who wears this.” He also described the future condition of the Ummah which would be straying from the injunction of the Islamic dress code. “In later (generations) of my Ummah there will be women who will be dressed but naked on top of heads (what looks)like camel humps. Curse them for they am truly cursed.

  3. Aleena says:

    Hi I’m 13 and really unsure because I dnt want to wear hajab because il feel outcasted and left out and I also play guitar and sing and If I want to get some where with that

  4. Aleenaa, what a nice name. Well, I can understand how you feel. Where do you live? Even sometimes in “Muslim” countries, family themselves may make us feel like we are making a choice which will limit us. But– Hijab is about covering your modesty and acting as a reminder of what you believe in. It is also a message. Even nuns used to be looked at in a curious manner because it is not the norm of society. But is society the one to set the correct norms? In Brazil during carnival it is quite normal and expected that the women parade and dance in lewd suggestive movements dressed in almost nothing.. but this does not make it the norm let alone acceptable..

    Hijab is giving yourself dignity and respect. More than this you are pleasing Allah. Life is very short but at 13 you feel your whole life is ahead of you— but when we grow up we realize that we are here to worship Allah and to follow what he asked of us. Hijab is a form of worshiping Allah. I hope that you will be patient and learn gradually to love hijab as so many other women do.. read more of the posts on my site as well as one called http://www.igotitcovered.org/
    Never let others put you down and determine who you want to be.

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  7. Lily says:

    Why is looking and feeling sexually attractive to men a sin? Is it because it’s dirty? So then what is dirty; the action of not covering up or the thoughts that make a woman not want to cover up? What is more important then…thought or action?
    You say Allah knows your innermost thoughts and feelings, but then you tell the girl that the action of not covering her head will not please Allah. But then surely he must know why she doesn’t want to do it, and he will not mind?
    Covering your body is just an action. Actions usually follow a certain state of mind. So if your state of mind is already one of modesty then what does it matter if you follow through with the action? The action is just to show others. Why bother with other’s opinions? Even if men look at you with lust, if you were really a shy and modest girl you wouldn’t even be aware of your beauty.
    I once read something another muslim woman wrote: ‘It is not the thought of wanting to drink the wine, it is the action of doing it that is sin’.
    But I say, if you had trained your mind to not even want the wine then the action would not have arisen either. Thought always comes first, therefore it is more important. God gave us a mind to think in a way we see best. If life was all about action, we may as well be animals.
    Actions vary immensely througout a person’s life but you can train yourself to be in a certain state of mind permanently, this is what is most important.
    Do you get angry at the ants for not believing in you? Allah, in the same way does not get mad at you ever.

  8. Maryam says:

    As salam alaykum sisters i think its better for all women to wear hijab and if necessary wear niqab it is better for you, to lower your gauses “Oh Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veil) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

  9. A woman should look and feel sexually attractive– for her husband- not random men who she may pass or meet in public. No being so is not dirty, or vulgar. Both thought and action are necessary forms of worship and to please God. Yes our actions do show others and marks the women as believers and of those who submit themselves to what Allah has asked them to do,, again think back about Mary and other women of that era,, were they also not covered with loose clothing and scarves? Also, it is most importantly God’s opinion of what we do more than that of men or women, fathers or husbands. Wearing Hijab is to please God, not human. The rest of your points are very interesting, and yes we are judged mainly upon our intentions, however actions is a reflection of our deepest thoughts… :D thank you for such a stimulating post.

  10. Unhappyuser says:

    I am a woman not yet getting the hidayah of wearing hijab.I know my wrongdoings though there are few points to argue as Allah knows best for me and you.However,it’s just hard for me to put on scarf.A lot of evil instincts and hard for me to commit to modesty.Please do pray for my heart to be fully opened to hijab and to the rest of the good things too.

  11. Inshallah over time you will find the peace you need to have strength and put hijab. It is a decision I have never regretted and have found many blessings in it. I admire your strength to say these things and inshallah that same strength will lead you to following what God has asked for your own happiness.. Fi amanillah

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