Islams Women: Questions





Written by IslamAlways.com   

Monday, 23 June 2008


“Man can marry four – why not women marry four?

What Does Islamic Law Really Say??

RE: Question – “Islam gives man permission to marry four wives. Why can’t a woman have four husbands?

Find out what Islam is really all about – regarding Islams Women

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Answer – Al Hamdulilah, was-salat was-salam ala rasoolullah. Allahu ‘Alim.
(It is Allah who has All Knowledge).

Rights and Limits

First of all, it is important for us to keep in mind that Islam came to establish two very important fundamentals for human beings:
Rights and Limits.

Everyone and everything has certain rights given to it by the Creator and Sustainer of the universe (Allah). At the same time, each creation has its own limitations established by Allah.

First Right – Allah has the right to be worshipped without making partners from what He has created. Direct worship to Him, alone.

Second Right – Prophet’s right to be followed according to his treaching and commandments.

Third Right – Parents rights to be honored and cared for, with special emphasis on the mother first.

Fourth Right – Wives and Husbands have rights on each other.

Conditions 1,400 Years Ago

Now let us do some basic research here. We begin by looking into the condition of the women in various societies at the time 1,400 years ago when Allah revealed the Quran to Muhammad, peace be upon him.

Pagan Arabs – Burying Girls Alive

During that time the pagan Arab men used to bury their newborn daughters alive in the sand, out of shame for having something so low and disgusting like a girl instead of a son. Women were treated horribly and with utter disgust.

Men could marry as many as they liked and very often they owned women like cattle or sheep. There were no laws to protect the women and they had no rights at all.

Christians – Arguing If Women Had Souls

Christians at that time were holding council meetings to determine whether or not a woman even had a soul. The church blamed “Eve” the mother of all humans after Adam, peace be upon him, for the “original sin” and damned her and her seed for what she had done.

Priests – Best Men – Forbidden Marriage – To Any Women

Priests, bishops, cardnels and even the Pope are the very best of the Catholic men within the church. Yet the church still forbids their clergymen the chance for marriage and families. This unnatural situation has caused very serious ramifications throughout the society around the world.

Nuns – Best Women – No Marriage – No Children

Nuns are the very best of the Catholic women. They cover themselves in proper attire much the same way as the Muslim women. Yet, they are never allowed to marry or have children throughout their lives. This unnatural condition has caused untold number of disgraceful and disgusting practices within the very church itself.

If Only Bad People Have Children – What About Tomorrow?

We must ask the question, “If the very best of the men and the very best of the women are not allowed to marry or have children – does this mean only the worst of the people are the ones allowed to reproduce and populate the world?” – And where will that leave us tomorrow?

Jews – Blame Women and Curse Women

The Jews blamed women for the “original sin” and as such they were treated with disgust. A woman’s monthly cycle was considered by the Old Testament of the Bible to be a “curse from God” for her inequities. Her child bearing pains were also a ‘punishment from God’ for her bringing man down from heaven.

Islam – No Blame On Women For Evil

Islam does not blame Eve for Adam’s sin. Each of them accepted their own mistake and repented to Allah, and asked Allah to forgive them and Allah did forgive them.

Now before going any further, please read surah An Nisa (chapter 4 in the Quran) – all the way through, in order to better understand what is actually being said about women, men and marriage.

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Now let us think about the verses. Do you believe that Allah Knows what He created and He has revealed the perfect ‘deen’? Do you know the condition of the people at the time the order came to restrict the number of wives? (Restricted to be only four)

Now read the verse about having more than one wife, very carefully. [4:3]

What does it say? And what do you understand from it?

Now read the ayah (verse) that forbids men to marry women who are already married. [4:24].

Now read from An Nisa (Chapter 4) about the role of men and women. [4:34]

Man Supports And Protects Women

Do you understand that one must take on the role of supporter, protector, provider, custodian and servant to the family (man’s role)?

Woman Gives Birth – Raises Children

One must take on the role of carrying the child and delivering it and then feeding it and raising it to become a true servant of Allah (woman’s role).

Not Equal – But Treated Fairly In Justice

Men and women are not the same nor are they “equal” as some folks would have us believe. Whatever is on one side of an ‘equals’ sign must be exactly the same as what is on the other side without any difference in value, only in the way that it is expressed. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?

Equal In Faith And Actions

They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.

Children’s Rights Protected

Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family. How could the court know who to give the wealth of a man, if he was one of several husbands to a woman? How would a child know who his father was? No society ever supported the concept of a woman being married to two or more men at the same time.

Women’s Right – Best Treatment

Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Yet, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.

Limit – Number in Marriage

When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.

Limit – Equal Maintenance and Treatment

Second, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?

Next, the limitation very clearly states; “.. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one …

Muslims Today – Most Monogamous

Step by step, the men of Islam have come to be known today as the most monogamous of all men on earth (we only have one wife). Check for yourself and see. In the majority of all the Muslim homes on earth, a man gets married once, to one woman and then he stays married to her until the death of either himself or his wife.

Woman’s Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes –
Even If He Is Already Married

One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.

Women Need Husbands – Allah Provided the Answer

The prophet, peace be upon him, predicted that in the Last Days the women would outnumber the men to a great extent. Today we are seeing this become a reality all over the world. Allah has already provided for us for this occasion. After all, He is the One who makes it all happen and He already knew that many women would come into Islam in these days. He also knew many of the Muslim men would be killed or die at an early age, just as it is happening these days. These women all need husbands. Allah has given us the solution to all of life’s problems.

Women’s Right to Vote – 1,400 Years Ago

We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with “Women’s Suffrage” and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.

Women Keep Their Identity – And Their Names

Additionally, Islam protected women’s rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.

Women Keep Their Property And Earnings – Men Must Share

Yet, at the same time the western society is so concerned about the way Islam demands that a couple be married, the man actually must work instead of the woman; the woman owns her own property without giving anything for the support of the house or the child; a child has the right to his or her own mother raising them instead of a baby sitter or day care; father must support his children; divorce is hated; and marriage is sanctified.

West Can’t Tolerate Man And Woman – In Marriage

It is strange isn’t it, a society like America, has no problem accepting sex without marriage; homosexuality; same sex marriages; sex without responsibility; children without fathers; and divorces are more common place than the measles or chicken pox. Yet, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.

What Needs to Be Re-evaluated?

Compare the two for yourself and see which one needs correction.

We will be waiting to hear from you. May Allah Bless you all and increase you in all that is good, ameen.

Last Updated ( Monday, 23 June 2008 )




  1. Tonytronic says:

    Is it not true that Muslims believe that a woman’s hair is magical, and that is why they must cover it?? So as not to captivate the man and make him do something beyond his will, or think sinful thoughts?? This to me is putting the weakness of the man on to the woman, make them pay for YOUR sinful thoughts. The Burka is WRONG!!! Women who willingly vail themselves must have no true self esteem, because they have done nothing wrong but to look beautiful, and the sinful thoughts of anyone else is truly their own problem. I can’t believe that an educated person as yourself can logically follow such a religion, but if it brings you peace and happiness in life then more power to you. I have nothing against Muslims, but find most religions as whole to be nothing more than MASS POPULATION CONTROL. I try and think in terms of Abraham, what book did he have to guide him?? NO Quran no bible yet he knew Allah, how is this possible?? Think really think, without any book, feel it inside you everywhere you look, see things as Allah sees. How big is our Galaxy ??Billions of stars and solar systems, how many Galaxy’s do we know are out there??? Billions of Galaxy’s and Allah made them all he is the Alpha and Omega he exists without time. You can only begin to imagine, but try and think on the scale of what Allah is. You are an ant, less than that compared to what level Allah exists in. Now look at the ground and pick up an ant, hold it on your finger watch it as it crawls around. Can you explain to that ant what it is like to be human?? Can you make the ant understand that his universe is just your front yard and there is a whole world out there??? It is not in the ant to understand these things, just as no matter how hard we try we in this lifetime cannot truly understand Allah.

    One more thing to ponder…. Die a martyr??? Do Muslims really believe that they will live eternity on fields of milk and honey, and have 70 virgin maidens??? Why do we as humans have a sex drive?? It is because of a chemical release from a gland in our brains correct?? So why would you think that in death you will have a sex drive??? Ask these types of questions and most religions give answers that sound good… so good that people want to say YES that is what I want, because I do not have it in this life so now I will have it in death.

    More humans have died in the name of Allah and God than from anything else, and it is a shame, but a man has an easier time getting another man to kill if he thinks Allah or God is on his side. Those who win wars write history, and it is twisted to reflect the beliefs that they want future generations to believe. I just want to see more self thinkers rather than people following beliefs like cattle. May the light that Allah put inside you set you free.

  2. jasmine says:

    HI Tonytronic,

    Do you belive that you are a son of your mother and father only or you have done your DNA test to confirm it.when you belive your parents with out any doubt, in same way we all muslims belive that we are servents of Allah the most greatful. Yes we don’t need any proof or a logic to belive in allah and his promise.
    Sorry to say there are so many things where you don’t need any proof to belive.

    any one can belive if it is supported by proof.
    the beliving which is with out proof is the correct and pure love towards your beloved ones.

  3. Thanks Jasmine. However I do think that there is proof that God Exists… so many ayat in the Quran tell us that there are proofs for those who look and think and see what is around them “for those who understand.”

    The simple miracles of life, growth, seasons and orbits of planets in their perfection are just a few for those who really understand. Not just these, but there are things within the Quran which prove that it is the word of God and that He exists. For example, the statement that the baby grows under three layers of darkness has been proven by medical research to be true in that there are three distinct layers. Another aya describes mountains as balwarks, or pegs in the earth. Did you know that they have roots just like teeth do? Tell me— how could P. Mohammed have known this 1400 some years ago without aid of modern machinery to “see” this fact?? As the saying goes, you cannot see the forest for the trees. There is no way P. Mohammed peace be upon him, could have known this.

    The birth of children is not reason alone to see that there is a God, a creator, that all of this didnt just ‘happen’??

    Believers have faith yes….. we must because as humans we have a limited ability to know all things or to understand everything around us. That is why we as Muslims,,,, worship the Creator, not the created.

  4. Lucia says:

    Comments about the article:

    What are you saying then??? that women are inferior to men???
    And where do you place the persons that are man and woman at the same time?? this is the reality for 1 baby in 500! It’s not something rare!!
    FACT: You can be physically different and be equal at the same time!!! the ability to carry children doesn’t make the women able to feed or raise them. There is nothing such as “mother instinct” for humans and even for various animals’species. Roles are a cultural thing decided and imposed by societies and churches. The woman thou history and different cultures has been the protector, supporter, provider…to the family and she still is in MANY ways and situacions.
    Men are perfectly able to raise kids from the day of birth. It’s very common for a women not to be able to breastfeed or to be able to give birth naturally. Man and woman’s sterility is also something common. When a couple adopt a baby, the woman cannot, obviously, breastfeed him. We are all different, because we all look different (colour of skin for example), are living different lives, are believing in different religions, have different personalities ect…and we are each of us unique because we have a unique DNA. Having a penis or a vagina is just a difference more. We are all different and unique and it’s beautiful! How boring will it be otherwise? We all HUMANS and all EQUAL with our own cultural or physical/biological differences!!!!

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